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Love After 30
Model/Real Estate Agent & friend to the show Ellie Cleary Joins This episode of MinorityPlus1 Podcast! Maybe you've pondered the complexities of love after 30? We've got you covered! Our latest episode is a wild ride through the realms of personal growth, modern dating, and the hilarity of human interaction.
What does it really mean to nurture a partner's potential, and is it a reflection of superiority or a genuine effort to improve a significant other? Join us as we dissect the initial spark in relationships, the weighty expectations of gender roles, and the importance of a thorough vetting process when looking for love post-30. We share personal stories of attraction, the depth of connection beyond physical allure, and the significance of mental engagement. Add to that a heated debate over communication boundaries and you've got an episode that's as enlightening as it is entertaining.
From uncomfortable questions on dates to the 'Shame Game,' our conversation stretches into the realm of respect and personal space—vital components of any relationship. We don't shy away from tough topics like gaslighting and the nuances of attraction, nor do we hold back on our shared laughter at an art event that turned out to be... unexpected, to say the least. So, buckle up for a podcast episode that promises authenticity, heartfelt insights, and a heavy dose of real talk. Our camaraderie is contagious, and we're inviting you to be a part of it.
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Speaker 2:This is the Minority Plus One Podcast. Chill Music. What's going on, everybody and welcome to the show is the king of the half reasons. We are back once again podcasting to you and, as always, we got the ladies.
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Speaker 2:Dolan's. Tell them who are you and I'm your host, steve, and this is the Minority Plus. One Podcast Music Okay well, first off disclaimer everybody.
Speaker 3:Thank you.
Speaker 4:Now mind you everybody.
Speaker 2:this is my last disclaimer Annoying For two months. Britney Music.
Speaker 4:Are you like here? No, hold on, I'm going to put it on for two seconds. She over here like annoying. First of all, when he came in and said, hey, I'm about to be on a cliff, she said what you better, get fucked up. Here's a vape, here's an edible, here's crack. Here you go Like she's not lying.
Speaker 2:She's not lying, as without the crack it was basically on point, that is not true.
Speaker 3:I said, if you were doing this, I shouldn't be giving you this vape, didn't I? But I'm going to do anyway. And then I said blueberry afgu, you don't need this. And you said pretty, that's fucked up. I'm going to talk mad shit about you If you act like you don't give me this and then you don't give it to me. So what the fuck was I going to do? The attic and him needed it, so I was just providing If you ask me. Damn, I was doing a favor.
Speaker 5:She hit me with the edge of a crack. He called me down. She called you a crack.
Speaker 3:She hit me with the crack baby. I guess you're waiting a little bit to do that soberness, but it's okay.
Speaker 2:No, first off, it starts next, it starts next. I'm right with you, you know what I see.
Speaker 3:A lot of people, more than ever. I've been taking on THC breaks and I don't know why, but I don't know why. But you want to know. I feel like I'm so. I'll be your support group. I feel like I'm so into the industry and it's my job, it's literally my job to tell people about all the different strains we carry, the new strains, the effects like it ain't going to change in a week. Also, I just don't so without I don't want to but now.
Speaker 3:I'm just telling you why. Even more so, why I just feel like I understand that.
Speaker 6:But, being in the industry.
Speaker 3:It's harder because we do have one girl at my job who does not smoke, but she's in the back Like she's stopped.
Speaker 2:She's stalking like she's got her to really know. I only proved who's the addict.
Speaker 4:All right, so let's move on. How would you know? How would you know, pretty pretty, you love me, oh come on, bro, don't get mad.
Speaker 3:Oh, so fucking annoying.
Speaker 2:How's she going to call me out and then I clap back, see my first, my first episode back.
Speaker 3:Okay, yeah, and this is. This is the bullshit I get. I love you too.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 3:I still don't get a souvenir. I got the other wax, let me just say something.
Speaker 4:Let me just say something. Can we get the show rolling? I don't got time for this shit. You're both fucked up. I'm sick of this shit. I love you both. Brittany, how was your fucking vacation I?
Speaker 5:love you too. Who is it? Who is it? I'm happy somebody. Mama, holy shit, holy shit.
Speaker 3:You know what I mean. What's so sad about? I just want to say everybody, my birthday and my birthday trip vacation was phenomenal. This is definitely was a birthday for the books for me. Between having my party with y'all and then going away to New Orleans was phenomenal. T-shirties I should make it like three times Did you get beads, though I got beads and I was very particular about my beads, and let me tell you why I wasn't. I was very particular about my beads.
Speaker 3:So I was very particular. My first, the first time I ever took out my titties, was these beads were beautiful, they were big Mardi Gras beads. And then another lady gave me they were together and they she had some beautiful ceramic, beautiful ceramic beads. I was like where the fuck? I was like you know, I have to. I was like these are, these are, these are too good. So that was my first time on Bourbon Street is exactly what it sounds like, Guys. It is crazy as fuck. It is just the most surreal experience to just jump from bar to bar and just having people call you in and wanting you to come in party. Spend money Real fast.
Speaker 4:When I went, when I went to Mardi Gras, I did not have the pleasure of showing my titties, so I asked people if I could just have their Mardi Gras beads. I was like, can you, did you really?
Speaker 3:I was like can you give me money? I mean, that was Tiff, the first that my cousin went with me. That was her the first two nights, and then, I still had my beads.
Speaker 4:And then I wasn't of course no.
Speaker 3:I took my good ones home. I didn't take, you know, these little ones home, but I did take my good ones home. That was my cousin, because the first two nights she was like, and then all of a sudden she was like no, oh no, no, you know, my cousin showed her titties to. You know it was it's see, I didn't do it.
Speaker 6:What?
Speaker 3:happens in Bourbon stays in Bourbon, and the internet? You know there's a lot that goes into before you start to flash. You know I I am a creature habit. Always my cards with my boobs and stuff my money in my boobs. I have to like make sure everything was out, you know, and safe and secure Before.
Speaker 2:I'm just like too it ain't like like signing up for a credit card, you just fucking.
Speaker 3:What the? And anyway, I definitely recommend it. It's everybody. It was a great fucking experience. It was how was the food? I heard the food was the fried chicken, y'all the fried fucking chicken. I can't say enough good things about this fried chicken and I just melt it in my mouth. You know they have palm trees there and streetcars and it's really a whole different type of world down there. Everyone's super nice. I can't, I can't say enough good things about New Orleans, my, my, my experiences.
Speaker 4:Yeah, it was a great place. I love that city, I love that state, love the food. I had one of the best experience. I would definitely live down there, mm, hmm, yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, no, I must have done best. People had a great lesson. But I will say this birthday is taken a toll on your girl. I fucking, I feel like I just turned 37 and I'm damn near like started going downhill. I don't know what the fuck is going on.
Speaker 4:I'm way more tired than usual. I try to tell Brittany Way more tired. We are not 26 anymore, we cannot know. It's not something different about this birthday.
Speaker 3:That is like oh D, my back has been killing me since like last fucking week. I did fall on the ice yesterday, so literally the day after my birthday. All of a sudden, I swear to God, this shit hit midnight. My shit was like fucking. I was like what's going on? Thirty seven feels rough. I'm tired and I don't understand why. I've been trying to prepare for it, taking B12 shots to college and shots and vitamin B vitamin. All this, all this stupid shit, and for some reason, this is getting your girl, so I'm hoping that you know. Maybe another week.
Speaker 5:I'll start to feel like I know, I'm not a week. Who know, it's this thirty seven for anybody.
Speaker 3:Thirty seven, is this thirty seven?
Speaker 5:Yes, it is.
Speaker 3:It's, it is Really I know.
Speaker 4:I'm body aches and pain. I'm done with it. Body aches and pain. I have to disagree. I think only because you're not even thirty five Sit down.
Speaker 2:You've been part of it. She's already sitting, but you know what I mean.
Speaker 4:I'll be thirty five next month.
Speaker 2:Are you thirty five now?
Speaker 3:No girl, this is a week away. No girl, she got a couple of weeks. This is, this is rough. Ok, she doesn't understand. And when I broke, when I fell the other day out the car, I was like oh my God, oh my God, this shit was like fucking.
Speaker 5:I was in twenty one. I need life.
Speaker 3:Alert. I thought I needed life for that when I got out of the car and I just fell right down. Thank God this old guy came out of nowhere. I'm just like I saw you, I don't know An angel from the sky, I'm not even saying oh God.
Speaker 5:I don't know where this guy came from. He's probably like this bitch, staying Holy. I don't know where this guy came from, sam I guarantee you.
Speaker 2:But this is my. It's outside that window every snowstorm and it's like I know it, I know it. And then he like, oh shit.
Speaker 4:I think he's planting it. I think he's like, let me put the water on the snow so she could just.
Speaker 2:You told me that I was. It was fair game. It's in the group chat. You told me I just had to wait a day. That's true, you did.
Speaker 7:And I feel like I can't really laugh about it, because I'm not healed. Yet I'm not healed.
Speaker 6:So when I feel healed and my body feels, OK, then I could be like remember when I fell, ha ha.
Speaker 3:And I also have PTSD because I had a really, really bad fall on ice. Not even a couple of ice storms ago.
Speaker 6:It was a year ago.
Speaker 3:No, that was way far. I think that was like two years ago now. One of the big it was a huge ice storm and everything was covered in slick, slick ice. You couldn't even go outside, it was so icy.
Speaker 6:And she tried.
Speaker 3:I know like a dumbass and I got a concussion. So, slipping on ice is is really like PTSD for me, so but the English, so ice skating. If anyone wants to put that in for my birthday, let's say you had a blast for your birthday. But I said it was a great birthday and I appreciate everybody that played a part.
Speaker 4:OK, all right, so we have a special guest.
Speaker 2:All right, you want to introduce him special guest? Yes, because this is my first time meeting our guests so.
Speaker 4:Actually Brittany and I know her, we've we've done a modeling show. She's a local model, she does really.
Speaker 3:We've talked about.
Speaker 4:Yeah, we've, we've talked about, not you. I know, but we've talked about our modeling experience so rough time, but anyway a real one on the show, I know. Right, all right Yo, oh, come on, that's funny. That's what it was so keep it going All right. Our special guest, alicia Alicia, alicia, alicia, alicia.
Speaker 8:Alicia, alicia, alicia, and. And yes, yes, yes, he did. Yes. What's happening? What's happening? Hello, hello, hello, hello, yes, welcome to the show, thank you. Thank you, we apologize in advance for all the craziness. No, I love it, I love the energy. We hope that you know what you're getting yourself into here and no, I love it, I love the energy.
Speaker 2:We hope that you know what you're getting yourself into here. Not really. But, honestly again, we just want to thank you for coming on.
Speaker 8:Thank you for having me. I'm super excited to be here. You guys are technically popping my cherry, so, yeah, it's my first podcast. It's my first time in front of the camera. I'm usually behind the camera or like just doing modeling or something like that. You sound good? Yeah, thank you. This is my first time. Yeah, I'm excited.
Speaker 4:All right. So before we get into you and everything, I want to put you on to a game that we do every episode.
Speaker 8:This is going to be interesting.
Speaker 4:Okay, let's start off with the game we do a segment called Guess what Friend it Is. The segment is where one of us chooses a video that represents either ourselves or the other two. So last week, steve, it was Steve's. Last week the people so not on the YouTube page that they say who they guess it was, but I did put an Instagram stories and it was 50-50. It was between me and Steve that people thought this video represented. So, producer, could you play the last week's clip?
Speaker 5:John, that is the president of the United States. I don't care who it is, he's ruining Hamlet. Oh, now you're f***ed up. Now you're f***ed up. Now you're f***ed up. You have f***ed up now, now you're f***ed up. Now you're f***ed up. Now you're f***ed up. Now you're f***ed up. Now you're f***ed up. Mr President, will you please be quiet? Suck my presidential c**k b**ch. Oh, I know who. That is your tubba lard looking mother f***ing. What, what, what, what, what? Hey, what, what? I don't know why you're looking up at me b**ch.
Speaker 4:If you guys want to see the rest of that clip, or the clip we're about to play. God, I go to our YouTube Minority Plus one, so I'm going to start with you, alicia. Who do you think that clip represents?
Speaker 8:Out of the three of you guys. Who's the three people in this clip? Who are you guys? Or the one person going off?
Speaker 2:So basically between the two guys going at it.
Speaker 8:The person going off is definitely Sam. Sam is definitely the one telling people to shut the f*** up or go sit the f*** down or get the f*** up out of here. So that's definitely Sam. And then the other person going back and forth with them, the person hiding their face and looking like oh Lord, oh my God, oh my God, that's definitely Brittany. That's Brittany. She's like oh God, do we have some coops? She done grabbed the pearls and all that.
Speaker 4:Yeah, so and then the other person is definitely Steve.
Speaker 8:Okay, okay, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 4:My guess was Abraham Lincoln with Steve. I was the dude that was getting annoyed. Obviously, Brittany was the one that was clutching their pearls. Yeah, what about you, Britt?
Speaker 5:Blaze on stage.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I would have had Steve as Abraham.
Speaker 2:I don't know where this is coming from.
Speaker 3:Definitely me clutching and Sam the other guy.
Speaker 4:All right, who was it? Steve? Because this was your choice, all right.
Speaker 2:So, like I said, guys, this particular show and this particular episode is very nostalgic because it was from my friend who passed. He did say that Abraham Lincoln reminded him of me.
Speaker 4:Okay, okay, I got it.
Speaker 8:Is it the beard? No, it's not Fuck you fat-tub.
Speaker 4:Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2:So, I don't know. That's what we want. That's what we want, that's what we want. It's more of like just the fact, like because, honestly, I have done that exact shit.
Speaker 3:That's because he didn't. You say you got sent out by a fat person when you were younger and then you had never gotten over it. That story, what?
Speaker 2:I never said that, I never did.
Speaker 3:You never said anything like that, were you.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 3:Because, sam, isn't that how it's stemmed? No. I'm not fat-phobic Steve.
Speaker 2:What I don't know.
Speaker 4:I don't remember Steve saying like a.
Speaker 3:We're gonna have to revisit that later. We're gonna have to bring up some more old episodes of I don't remember Steve's villain origin story.
Speaker 4:I thought there was some trauma.
Speaker 3:There was trauma with the fatter woman in your life. Do you know that? And I don't really know what happened. Are you sure? Yeah, but I thought that that was an issue for you. Erosion- though.
Speaker 2:Damn it, it's gotta be on Britney. That was for Britney, not me. That's not what I did.
Speaker 5:I don't know. I don't know. We know he's got these issues. You do have issues.
Speaker 3:Am I Thank you? You got fat from nowhere.
Speaker 4:I don't know if it stemmed from like a fatty not liking or something, but he's doing better.
Speaker 3:I've been proud of him lately. He's taken the strides to better yourself and work through.
Speaker 2:I want you guys to know that I'm not actually joking. I'm actually genuinely perplexed, really.
Speaker 3:You've never had any issues with fat people.
Speaker 2:I don't have issues with fat people.
Speaker 3:You just don't date them. Not my type, okay, see.
Speaker 8:You're allowed to have a preference I mean, yeah, everyone's allowed to have a preference.
Speaker 3:I'm not good-notted about that, but I know, you know we've talked a couple times, yeah, so If I had to leave them like do they mention the same thing?
Speaker 5:It's okay. Do you know I'm that, it's okay.
Speaker 3:We have episodes vol-t-less bitch.
Speaker 2:You cannot let this shit on someone like me who knows who to fuck with. I'm that mother. All you have to do is ask me what I really fucking think, and I will happily tell you. Oh, you definitely ate my hand, I changed my answer.
Speaker 8:Alright, so it's my week this week.
Speaker 2:Yeah, bring in something next week. So producer bait could you play, you know it.
Speaker 4:Yep, that middle clip right there and then before you play, don't get mad at me because I brought up your You're a bad, you're a bad, you're a bad ass shit. Alright, so it says. So it says again y'all, you have to go to our YouTube page, minority Plus One, to see these clips, to get the full context. But it says me, after someone finally asked me how I'm feeling.
Speaker 5:Goodness inside of me. It wants to get out, it wants to walk around, it wants some walking around money and it wants to buy some shoes and it wants to. It wants to walk up with the people and say, hey, gator, don't play. No shit, you hear, you feel me, gator, never been about that. Never been about playing no shit, Aw fuck Darkness inside of me Alright, alright, it wants to get out.
Speaker 4:So I'ma start with you, Alicia, again. Who do you think that clip represents, Out of all three of us?
Speaker 2:I didn't help my case.
Speaker 4:Just Will Ferrell, not even Amanda's, just Will Ferrell's character.
Speaker 8:Right, because even Amanda she looked like. Terrified yeah yeah, we ain't scared over here. Yeah, exactly, I didn't know who that was. That's a tough one. I'ma go with Steve. I'ma say Steve now, because he looked like he'd be losing his mind a little bit and he was playing no shit. Yeah, yeah, he looked like he tried to stand on business. So, yeah, what about you, britt?
Speaker 3:I don't know, maybe any of us. I feel like we're all going through some shit. I feel like life is real life and for all of us, so it could be either of us.
Speaker 4:Okay, so you say any one of us, any of us.
Speaker 3:That's an easy backup. I feel like, well, no, it's not, because I feel like everybody's going through shit and we all like somebody genuinely asks us how we're doing. Okay.
Speaker 4:What about you, Steve? You all got issues.
Speaker 2:All right, after that little soliloquy I just did, it's got to be me.
Speaker 4:Well, you'll find out next week. You are always the outburst Find out next week. Make sure you comment down below who do you think that clip was from? And guess what friend it is that was a good pick, sam.
Speaker 2:Nice job, brittney, you are.
Speaker 4:Actually that's one of my favorite movies.
Speaker 2:the other guys, that shit cracks me up a little bit. You have to, because I want to see what your take is on us, On you guys. So yeah, that's why I'm picking you for next week. It's not because of my phobia that I don't have.
Speaker 5:But you know that.
Speaker 2:And you know that, ready or shit, all right.
Speaker 8:Shots fired, bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow.
Speaker 4:Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow Bow.
Speaker 8:Bow, bow, bow Bow.
Speaker 4:Bow Bow Bow Bow, bow, bow, bow, bow, bow, bow, bow Bow. Its your turn. All right, so THIS is a a little bit.
Speaker 8:Can I have a little wine? No, no, no, I bought the sweet bitch up here. Sweet bitch, sweet bitch she said ever bad.
Speaker 5:Oh sorry.
Speaker 4:Well, it was a CC and a master of my ADHD Right now, Um, but as we were talking about um, you said dating after 30, right, yes?
Speaker 8:love after 30, after 30. Absolutely, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4:So how's your experience? Cause you are single right now.
Speaker 8:Yes, I am. I'm actually very single than right now, which is is a new dynamic for Alicia.
Speaker 4:Yeah, cause you said that's not normal for you. I called you a serial monogamous.
Speaker 8:I am. I'm a serial. Yes, that's new for me that you labeled me that. I didn't even know what category I was supposed to be in.
Speaker 4:But yeah, that's it.
Speaker 2:It's pretty similar to, though she's a well, can you explain what is a serial?
Speaker 4:monogamous.
Speaker 8:Yeah, yeah, explain it, cause you had to explain it to me?
Speaker 4:Yeah, for sure. A serial monogamous is just someone that loves to be in a relationship. That's always kind of in a relationship. They don't. They're very they're very rarely single. I can agree yeah, they love the aspects of being in a relationship. They love monogamy obviously because they want to be in a man a typical.
Speaker 3:I can agree with that Cause. Even though I'm single, I still am in relationships where it's like I'm acting like I'm in a relationship.
Speaker 8:So it's like, which is such a detriment? Right, it's like it's, but it's because we're so perpetuated used to being in this not exactly and for somebody who prefers to which I don't knock.
Speaker 3:like I said, I always say I don't knock anybody else's thing. Everyone got on me about sex, about sex being an intimacy thing. I mean I'm gonna be a proud that, but I didn't see the you say he was fat phobic. What does that have to do with my?
Speaker 3:intimacy conversation right now. Anyways, all I'm saying is that I just prefer to deal with one person, and so, with having that mindset, even though I'm single, it does make it really, really hard because, yeah, that person's not my official title, my man or anything, but I still feel so much loyalty to that one person.
Speaker 8:Oh, so you get me. That's awesome For real.
Speaker 3:That's like sharing your body and having you know one intimate connection with somebody and then it's just like I just don't like sharing myself with pieces around people and it's a vicious cycle. I feel like that's why I'm always a creature of habit. I don't know if you're the same way, but I just feel like I just feel there's no need to be going around having all these things.
Speaker 4:But, like I said, I mean yes, yes, I would knock anybody's thing. Anybody's thing, I think when I was single per se. I like to keep my options open. I was not loyal to none, yeah.
Speaker 8:And you know what I was what they call a savage, yeah, and you know what I think I want to lean to.
Speaker 3:when you're single, you should lean to being more of a savage than I feel like these days and think about yourself being put out with men and the men that are out here in these options. It's like they're almost forcing us women and then they're all the opposite. They're like, well, you fucking hose. And I'm like, well, y'all, don't give us any fucking. So here's my take on this Right.
Speaker 8:Here's my take on this. So women are not encouraged to casually date we are considered home.
Speaker 8:No way, we're not, we're not, we're not If we casually date, we are considered a hoe Right and even as young women, as young ladies, as teenagers growing into women. If you had a good, solid person in your life that taught you about stepping into liking the opposite sex as a girl not a woman, but as a girl you were taught right To keep your clothes closed to find one person and you only like that one person and to put all of your eggs kind of in one basket, whereas with boys, boys were taught to um to accept rejection. They were taught about rejection because we understood as a boy you were going to go fishing and you weren't supposed to stay with one person as a young boy not as a man, but as a young boy. So we have encouraged them and taught them how to deal with rejection. You deal with a girl, you move on.
Speaker 8:Oh, that's just. That's just your little friend, move on. That's because I have sons and so I encourage my sons to have friends. He doesn't have any girlfriends, he has friends, right. But with my daughter I may have been a little bit different, I may have been like um, you don't have friends. You need to find one boy that's a good boy, he has good grades, he's going to treat you right and we're not encouraged to casually date. How old is your son?
Speaker 3:So my son is 14. Okay, do you know? My son just turned 13 in January. Do you encourage him to date?
Speaker 8:I do not encourage, no, 14 year old today, my son's father will encourage he'll be like oh yeah, why don't you want to go? Well, no, no, no, no, no, no, he's not my son's dad.
Speaker 4:That's the thing. It's different. You know, she said in school you're absolutely right, I think that I have a friend, Absolutely so, real friends I have a friend. She has two older sons, one of them's 19 and the other one may be like 24. Neither one of them have been with a girl yet. I think that's amazing.
Speaker 6:I personally, I would have waited.
Speaker 4:But yeah, what a father you know, because boys lose it so young and they're encouraged to lose it so young you know, and I ask you a question.
Speaker 2:No, that's true. Who's telling you that boys are encouraged to use um lose it young?
Speaker 8:No, no, no, that's not what I said. I'm not saying that I'm not going to hurry specific.
Speaker 6:Where did you?
Speaker 2:get that from, like, where are you getting this?
Speaker 4:from Growing up like seeing that the young boys were almost, like, shamed for not having sex at a certain age when I was young. Hmm, okay, no, I heard the same. Hold on, let me finish. You asked me a question, so I'm going to answer you. I wasn't Okay, bitch, but I just seen it. Bow, bow, bow, bow, I'm fired. I remember being like 12, 13, and I'm like yo, you ain't been with a girl yet. Even Sheeman myself, or you know my friends that grew up with I was not having sex yet at 13.
Speaker 8:But then if there was a girl that was seen, not even done anything, but was seen with multiple boys and just as friends it was an assumption that she was on hold and that she was around and she was loose, and I'm always fascinated.
Speaker 4:I'm always fascinated that now we're in a more progressive, liberal state in the world, which I think is amazing. You know everyone's open to people, lgbt, trans and sexuality and being gay and being lesbian. So I'm always I'm fascinated with how the kids take it in school now, because it was so hard to be gay, it was so hard to be sexual.
Speaker 8:You got shamed for every little thing, like you just said, I don't even know that dynamic because I don't really go that deep.
Speaker 4:I wonder if the dynamic is better, and I hope it did grow because it needed to, so you're saying more sex equals what. No one said it.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm hearing.
Speaker 8:Here's what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that when you get a chance to date, it's 100% worse than ever.
Speaker 7:It's way too fucking much.
Speaker 3:At least you two know each other's got control. I know and we're talking about. I think my son was seven or six when I heard of him and having the older cousins and having some incident and the talking guy on your pin.
Speaker 2:I just shared my experience. Real quick, please. No, I'm just saying.
Speaker 3:There was an incident when my son he was very, very young and seven and he has a cousin who's about a year older and that cousin has even more cousins, the boy cousins, and they're all together and they throw on a woman's video and everyone's watching it Porn. And that was five years ago. So God only knows my son's 13 now, what he knows. He's a computer genius at that. It can either go the end what's happening? Females are, you know, females. These young kids are like you don't have a girlfriend.
Speaker 3:You're not interested in girls? Like what's going on? He is literally getting shamed from his older boys. Why aren't you interested in girls? No, I'm telling you, this is really happening.
Speaker 2:OK, this is happening. I'm sorry, but all I'm hearing all I'm hearing is just women speak.
Speaker 4:Well, I'll just speak. I just want to say one thing. So basically, brittany, you're saying shit, you get shamed either way, because you could actually be into sex and sexuality or not, and you're getting shamed. That is tough, yeah.
Speaker 8:You could either be hyper-sexualized or but I just want to bring it back to the fact that this is even as adult women, right, even as adult women, because we have been, it's been instilled in us that catch, and not all of us, I'm not going to say this is all of us, because there are some women who kudos to you, like shout out to you, because back in the day I would have been like, oh my gosh, she's such a whore. But kudos to you for really casually dating, because it is a thing, and if you don't learn how to casually date, you make poor decisions in locking yourself down. And when you are talking about love after 30, you don't have time to lock yourself down with the potential of somebody, right, you're actually looking for a real solid person that's going to contribute and you can contribute to them. So I just think that us, as adult women, I think we need to open the perspective of like it is OK to date, to casually date, it is OK.
Speaker 8:I'm not saying share your body with everybody because to date, you do not have to share your body, not at all right, it doesn't mean up your body count at all, but what I am saying is don't be ashamed or be afraid to go on those casual dates. Yes, it is important to get to know somebody. In order to do that, you have to spend time with them. In order for you to get to know somebody. I'm big especially now that I'm single, and I've been single for a good year or two vetting the vetting process, like understanding and getting to know the person for real who you are spending time with, so that when you are finally committing to them and wanting to be in a situation with them, you've had time to be friends. Right, and in order to be friends, you have to spend money, and that doesn't mean that it's only one-sided on the spending money thing, it's.
Speaker 8:I do believe that men are supposed to court a woman. That has been for centuries, right For centuries. But it doesn't have to be $100 dinner date for the first time either. You know what I mean.
Speaker 3:Either right, but I just in your experience with dating, have you found that more men expect, because they're doing these things, that they expect you to open your legs at the end of the night? Do you feel like that is an intentional, the end goal? Yeah, Because I feel like I struggle.
Speaker 8:I feel like they want to wait. I feel like I struggle even though a lot of men don't actually
Speaker 3:out on dates. My fear is I'm just like you, just want to fuck, can I?
Speaker 8:say that you just want to fuck. Yeah, but I don't really give a fuck about what they want.
Speaker 4:You know what I mean. I'm just saying fuck what they want, clearly obviously they ask you out because they're attracted to you. And who wouldn't want to have sex with someone they're attracted to? I set the standard right.
Speaker 8:I set the motion. So if that's what their intention is on the first date, then I switch their intention by making it be about what I want, right, and which is that I want to get to know you. So no, I won't invite you inside. When we are pulling up to your apartment and we are after the date and you invite me upstairs, there's certain indicators that I just know I'm not going to put myself in Again. Love after 30, right, I'm not stupid. But when I was in my 20s I might have pulled up and you said, oh, come upstairs, let's have a drink. And I might have.
Speaker 6:But in my 20s I might have won. Yeah, of course you didn't know, Because when I did.
Speaker 8:I mean, I wasn't stupid then either, but I might have felt like I had more control over the situation until you don't have control of the situation and it's something more than what you may be intended to be.
Speaker 8:So there's certain cutoffs. Now that I'm at the age that I am and the experience that I have in dating, I just know certain indicators and I know how to set certain boundaries right, and I'm still learning how to set certain boundaries so that in the continuation of whatever we're building, even if it's a friendship, there are certain respect levels that he'll say oh well, you know what. I know that she's not going to come upstairs, because I've tried two or three times and I know she's not coming upstairs. But it doesn't mean that I'm not interested, because I still call you, I'm still texting you.
Speaker 6:I'm still having a conversation with you. I'm like, does anyone want to get to know anybody here anymore?
Speaker 8:Absolutely, and I would love to hear Steve's perspective on this, because he's like he want to talk, so bad.
Speaker 4:Come on, Steve.
Speaker 8:Chatting with E. Come on chatting with E Pull up.
Speaker 2:Y'all talked about just so much here. I completely lost track of it, we love.
Speaker 8:after 30.
Speaker 2:Love after 30.
Speaker 4:So let's speak on you as a single man. You're in your 30s. What's love after 30 for you? What's that looking like for you so far?
Speaker 2:I mean for me right now it's hard to say because my experiences have all been well yeah.
Speaker 3:Really, why are you?
Speaker 4:single.
Speaker 2:Honestly, because I'm just not fucking entertaining and you're not fucking. No, why no? I'm sorry.
Speaker 4:Why it's just pussy. He'll talk about it.
Speaker 2:He's just pussy.
Speaker 4:Pretty celibate, steve's celibate. I don't give a fuck, absolutely that's a good Throw it at me.
Speaker 2:Yay, ain't had it before. It's like all right you know.
Speaker 8:So you're down with the vetting process. That's the fucking Lutely. I was like who the fuck are you? Because you're in love after 30, that's why no here's my thing who am I talking to?
Speaker 2:I don't have kids yet and I ain't going front. My vetting process is I am trying to find, like, the right woman I don't give a damn about. I don't give a damn like about, like all this extra other shit that everybody's so fucking infatuated with. I don't give a fuck about the right size, the right shape, it's whoever I find attractive, and if they happen to meet my mental in I hate using this word, but spiritual like, they just make me feel the vibe, your vibe?
Speaker 8:Yeah, I don't even like the word vibe, they just make me feel full, Like when you're around them.
Speaker 2:you just feel like shit just seems complete.
Speaker 4:There's a, there's a, there's a word.
Speaker 2:Like you, know how they say you know asexual.
Speaker 4:It's a one against all these little people who are very, who are attracted to people's you know, personality and feelings and stuff like that. But real, fast, I want to cycle back.
Speaker 2:A non motherfucker who doesn't really, who understands that fucking beauty fades yeah.
Speaker 4:I just want to. I just want to touch on something Absolutely Beauty, definitely. It's a little interesting with you. Why is sex so low on the tonal pool for you? Why do you?
Speaker 5:But why does it feel like if you don't?
Speaker 8:know what does it prove. He feels like it's shallow to me, Like I feel like he thinks it's shallow.
Speaker 2:And what the fuck will it prove? If I fucking knock your head off and you have the best orgasm ever, does that mean we're going to work? No, if I give you the weakest thing you ever had, is that going to mean we're going to work? Hey, you never know.
Speaker 4:It could, no, but it means you always say don't put you, don't put you on a pedestal and pussy Because nothing.
Speaker 2:But you know, because if you're, I think it comes into the other part of for me, dating in 30s, I've been lucky that I haven't had to deal with these mouth breathers that a lot of these kids are having to deal with now. I don't have to deal with dodo birds, who who flaunt their beauty like it's a privilege and that, like everything, should just be laid in front of their feet.
Speaker 8:I think you, I think your pool is very shallow, because I feel like there's a lot of women out here. I feel like there's a lot of women out here who have a lot more to offer than what you're saying and because of that we are kind of rejected. Because we have, we are alpha women and as alpha, women.
Speaker 2:I think you're mistaken. Alpha for just I'm. I think you're mistaken.
Speaker 8:Maybe I misunderstood what you were saying yeah, I know First of all you speak.
Speaker 4:You're speaking about shallow women. I'm speaking about shallow women.
Speaker 2:I'm talking about women who can't even form a fucking sentence correctly. Ok, these fucking pretty ass vaginas with no fucking sense to them, who fucking cause more problems than they fucking fix.
Speaker 8:And there's more of those than there are. Are you kidding me? I?
Speaker 4:have to do with sex.
Speaker 3:So what does this have to do with you not want to have sex?
Speaker 2:God forbid I fuck up with one of them.
Speaker 4:Would you get a break? Yes, well, you wouldn't?
Speaker 3:use condoms.
Speaker 4:I'm choosing condoms break 99 percent.
Speaker 3:Shit happens I understand that it was not Not that.
Speaker 2:Hold on, check this out. I don't want to give me a solo shot.
Speaker 5:Oh, give me a solo shot, this is what I'm fucking talking about. Yeah, I'm going to ask.
Speaker 2:Do you see how fast the women were like oh kids, don't you understand, you are a man having a kid with the wrong fucking guy or with the wrong girl?
Speaker 5:part. Edit that out. No, you're not discriminating. All right, they want to have you.
Speaker 2:Now, what I'm trying to say is is that you I have seen guys lose their fucking mind, yes From having it with the wrong women. You know? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Don't speak yet no, no, speaking yet. Ok, men have killed themselves, men have killed family members. Because women, because you don't like to admit sometimes on how vindictive a woman can be, and sometimes I just think you're just too pro, like yeah, you're too like go girl power.
Speaker 3:I understand that, see. So wait. This is why you're not having sex.
Speaker 5:Yes, he's fucking sex.
Speaker 6:This is the main reason why I'm not having sex Because you don't trust women.
Speaker 3:You don't trust women.
Speaker 4:I'm not. You have fear of trusting a woman with your trust brand.
Speaker 3:This is very new. You ain't never, you ain't never sharing that.
Speaker 2:That's the point. I want this to be understood this is now we're speaking. We're speaking on stuff that you guys even know, yeah it's like I'm not like in this crazy drought. So we can talk about that after we take a break and we're back.
Speaker 4:So okay, as you were saying, we've come to realize that your, your issue is you have trust issues with women and you don't trust having a child with a woman because you've seen the repercussions of being with a vindictive woman. You know women feel the same way about men.
Speaker 2:So for you guys to be in for being fucking cotton.
Speaker 3:None of that makes any sense. Okay, I feel like I have enough time to do you.
Speaker 2:I can understand why. Why, why you?
Speaker 3:can't understand why, if you are not having a genuine connection with a woman, you wear a fucking condom. Maybe they're on birth control, you don't even know the situation.
Speaker 8:He just doesn't want to swap it with somebody that he doesn't connect with.
Speaker 3:Like no, but I'm saying, I'm not saying willy nilly, just go out and meet somebody.
Speaker 2:I'm seeing that's actually kind of how it comes across.
Speaker 4:Well, yes, brittany, because we're talking about sex and casual sex, and Steve doesn't have to exactly, but I'm saying, if you see, you meet a girl and you fucking like say you met a girl, that's be dating shit.
Speaker 3:Right, you took, you met that night. You took her maybe on one other day, after what, what constitutes? And then you, what fuck her like. How long you waiting, you talk about a little bit till you're married.
Speaker 6:That's up to her exactly so.
Speaker 3:You meet someone that you're genuinely interested, you're gonna what fuck? Are you too scared? No, I'll smash. Exactly yeah, I don't think he's all about his fucking he's saying he's standing on this.
Speaker 5:Again, again again.
Speaker 2:I don't think you understand the conversations that are being had on the day that I be going on. I do not shy away from fucking questions. Everything is on the table with Steven. What the fuck do you want in a man Like? What are you looking for? I'm getting to the fucking point because I'm not trying to waste your time.
Speaker 4:I don't fucking waste mine, I understand those answers you figure out if, even no matter how attractive they are, you still won't have sex with them Absolutely, absolutely.
Speaker 8:So you're doing a good wedding process.
Speaker 2:I don't know why he played. He must have played that for one of y'all.
Speaker 8:He's he's Steve, is on his wedding and I appreciate that because I think a lot. Yes, it is.
Speaker 3:It is a lot of man play. I just think he hasn't found the game.
Speaker 2:I haven't, do you understand? I would love that.
Speaker 6:Do you understand? Hold on.
Speaker 2:I'll give you, I will give you an inside scoop to my little head. I'm jealous of salmon culture.
Speaker 3:I believe that Don't be, jealous, I believe it.
Speaker 8:I'm not going to tell you. Are you a monogamous person? You know what?
Speaker 3:Steve, I'm going to tell you a story that I haven't really told anybody besides my cousin because she was with me. But fucking, I was in New Orleans. I was at Cafe DuMont, which is a famous Benye place. They really weren't that good, Sorry, Barbara. Anyways, I went in and, like I said, famous people. So people when you go to New Orleans you want to go to this place. So a bunch of people. I waited in line forever to get to sit down on a table. So I sit down on the table and next to me it was just this really cute group of black women and they were dressed so nice. They all had pink on. There was maybe about six of them and I'm just looking at all of them. They all beautiful, stunning. I love all of their outfits and I'm like what is going on? Because it's like obviously a special occasion. And I look in the middle and one of and I finally noticed the girl has like a little veil on. So I'm like this is so fucking cute. They're doing a bridal shower.
Speaker 3:They got, you know the cute little things they're all matching in the pink beautiful black women, friends taking a nice girls trip to celebrate her engagement, and all of that. I just I looked over them and I just started to cry. I literally I just started to break down, tear and cry and the waiter comes over like this point, I'm like whatever call, but it's a stroke of court in me that I and I looked over and I'm like am I ever going to have that?
Speaker 3:Like somebody who wants those experience, somebody who wants a husband, somebody who wants to like have a bridal shower with my friends and you know everyone but cute in their pink and, you know, play on a wedding. Like is that going to happen for me, who knows? But the guy came over, he's a little Asian guy. It was like I was very. I think it triggered a chord in me and I didn't realize the bridal shower and I didn't realize between the Asian and the freak. I was in my emotions all of one so I understand what that's, what that feels like. It's tough.
Speaker 4:I may be in a relationship, but I was single for so many years. Brittany was there, Steve was there. I had my moments where I was so lonely and I was so lonely and I dated someone so toxic and awful for me because I didn't want to be alone. Like how low is that?
Speaker 5:You know, I've been low.
Speaker 4:I've been where Brittany's at. You know what I'm saying. But when you have to appreciate that you really work on yourself, you don't. You don't worry too much about it.
Speaker 3:I feel like I'm continuing to work on myself and it feels good, but it's just at the same time it's like damn, have I lost touch of? Am I ever? Going to find, you know, you don't find somebody for yourself, seeing in these situationships of today's world and, you know, not casually dating. That's the thing where not casually dating comes into play.
Speaker 8:Right, because you pigeonhole yourself into the one person that you found that you vibe with and that person ends up not really being for you or committing.
Speaker 8:And I really I wrote this down the other day and it was like potential, Am I a person who picks a person for perfection? And I had to say, you know, and throughout my dating history, I've never, I've never, picked the perfect guy for me. Like the guys that I've picked and the guys that I've dated, I have chosen them or they maybe have chosen me, but it's worked or not worked, because I saw potential and there's a big difference. That's a poor decision. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 4:And it's it's it's a poor, it's a it's a poor?
Speaker 8:Yes, there's a difference between picking the perfect guy because nobody's perfect and I want to, I want to just put that in there. Right Is that when you're looking for the perfect now that we're of age and we're 30, we've had a few experiences, so now we're like, okay, let's pick the perfect guy, because now we know what we don't want to deal with, right. So we're looking for the perfect guy, but I have to acknowledge that there is nobody perfect. Nobody not not even myself is perfect. There's nothing about any of us that is perfect. But then I also have to look at the flip side, on how I used to date in my twenties, and I've had relationships, and full on relationships with people, and these people that I have relationships with is because I fell in love with their potential. I didn't fall in love with who they actually were.
Speaker 4:Even noticed if they were even being on an ambitious path to be better than where they were at.
Speaker 8:That's all great. It's all great to be on a path to being a better person, but it's about action. And if a person is, just talking they did not. They had a lot of talk.
Speaker 2:I'm glad y'all said that because I was like I hope she brings that part into it.
Speaker 6:Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, no no, no, we're getting there, we're getting, we definitely because this is a real.
Speaker 8:This is a real experience for, I think, a lot of women over 30, including the women on the panel right now. Can I ask a question then?
Speaker 2:Absolutely so. All right, host. So what I feel is men date directly based off potential, which is yours, yeah, we. We love Do they?
Speaker 8:Yeah, that's not true, I think so. That ain't true, I think so.
Speaker 4:Wait oh wait, I'm sorry, so you all saw it. No, no, no no no hold on they fell in love with the look.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'm in desire first, okay, they're all about the looks, and then and how they so you never had anybody like.
Speaker 3:Well, that's why it was blind, is so trying to be successful. No, no, no, because no, no, no, no, no, no. What's you trying to say? Hold on, hold on, hold on. I'm serious.
Speaker 2:All respect y'all never like been with somebody who's like yo. Obviously I'm what a fucking banger, but she's also a Absolutely Because I'm a banger.
Speaker 8:Finally.
Speaker 3:She's mad. Kentucky and some people are besides. The point saying is initially it's always the looks first, and then they start talking. They're like, oh shit, this bitch got a joke, like.
Speaker 8:And then it becomes from there but it's about what you can get it is the looks and what is the same, and shovels it out no, no, no, no, no, no, no way, there's no way you said oh my god, the potential on him.
Speaker 2:No, I'm going, yeah you went.
Speaker 5:Oh my god look at him no, I'm going.
Speaker 4:I believe.
Speaker 8:I believe, that we can't.
Speaker 3:We see the potential in men and we are the key to that success, that enlightenment for them?
Speaker 8:how? Greedy are you that is such a that is what that is.
Speaker 2:Wait. So you mean to tell me, you mean to see here, but a straight face, I promise you every successful man has a strong powerful woman.
Speaker 7:That push, that push that push that I am 100 mother fucking percent.
Speaker 8:So so when, when we say the potential part right, and when we pick them, and when we, when we date a man and we say, oh, we see the potential in a man, we don't think that we higher than thou and we're gonna unlock some great, vast thing in this man, right, because I think that's what you think I'm saying, that's not what I'm saying. No, no, no, what I meant by that is that is that we pick men that we can fix so we will see things in men that we know we have the keys to to improve.
Speaker 8:Right, we'll say, okay, this man is struggling in this, this, this and this. Can I handle that? Can I? Can I help that? Can I put my effort into that? Can I make him a better man? Can I? If his credit score is bad and I know about credit, I'm going to help him with his credit and I'm gonna get him to a certain point. That is the potential. But see, what we need to be doing is, because our credit is a one and our credit is at 700, we should be dating men that's credit is already at 700 day people.
Speaker 4:I've been saying for years they, that is your love, the vetting that we are not doing hypergamy I've talked about it multiple times date practice, hypergamy, dating someone of a better class or better than you. But same.
Speaker 2:Alright, so, alright. So, numbers wise, this just doesn't work, with all respect, without, simply because, okay, I just had.
Speaker 3:I mean I can't read more, but do you find an Albany that it's hard to find? Well, same I mean Brittany.
Speaker 2:I was just about to give the example of.
Speaker 4:I yeah there were 30 women, so three guys. Numbers are against women.
Speaker 8:Yeah, absolutely it's against you and the older we get it's even.
Speaker 8:I think that because as women get older, we understand ourselves more right, when you start to hold yourself like there's some things you'll bend on when you're 20 and then you get to 30, you're like hell, no, I can't tolerate that, I won't bend on that and I won't do that. So we have a new awakening of what we are as self right. And then we meet men and it's very hard to kind of navigate, leaving that past thought process behind of like seeing a man and just kind of going off of what we ride and what we like. And in our 30s we're looking to build, and in order to build you cannot in order to build for one. We don't want to build a bear, we don't want to build a bear, and men don't want to build a bear woman either.
Speaker 2:I'm going to say that and you are a prime example of that you are going through a very good vetting process by not just giving yourself away to anybody that that's what you are praise and encourage and I just want to just sit there and say right now, because we were listening to I was listening to y'all when y'all were, him and Han about pressuring people to have sex you three just did it. What do you mean? What you mean, steven, how?
Speaker 4:you gonna put me in there.
Speaker 2:Actually, I just said that your vetting is great, I know, I know, I know, I know I was like I like fine problems.
Speaker 8:That's a neat.
Speaker 4:Before we discuss that, I have a really good video for the shame game.
Speaker 2:Okay, it actually retains the exact way we're talking about it. It's the shame game. You're putting them in the shame game. It's not a shame, no, you say game.
Speaker 4:Oh, it doesn't matter, it actually is a big difference.
Speaker 8:Oh, it's gang. It's gang Gang. G-a-n-g Gang Shame game. It's a throw-up or a symbol. It's something you throw up when you say gang. It does gang-sum.
Speaker 5:What game is it? What game is it? G-a-n-g? We don't know who. We think, we don't know.
Speaker 8:We don't get to vote. No affiliations no affiliations.
Speaker 4:But shame games is a segment we do when we do one of our victim videos and we shame it. So this video is perfect for exactly what we're talking about. Producer.
Speaker 2:Babe, before you play that, oh no, we shame the person. We ain't just shaming the bill, we shame the person. They did something shameful. So this one is perfect.
Speaker 4:It says question Do you agree or disagree that these were the two ways that we want them to play game? Agreed that these words together, choked and spanked have a sexual connotation.
Speaker 2:Now you guys have to. Nega, are you out your mind? There's a turn on words, so real fast this is like one of those.
Speaker 4:You know what's the show's Britney Love at First Sight, Love is Blind kind of show. Okay, so it's called Ready to Love. It's on the own network, so Bridget's going to go ahead and play 90 days and you're in love.
Speaker 8:Stop right there.
Speaker 6:That's the question that may have been out of bounds for you. How did that make you feel?
Speaker 7:Well, you were throwing out questions black or white, summer or spring, right? And everyone I answered boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. You threw out choked or spanked. I said, hey, that's not a question I'm willing to answer. Pause my answer.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry I've asked that question on the first date.
Speaker 4:Well, that's this geez just let it play.
Speaker 8:That's real liberal of you.
Speaker 7:Your answer for you caused you to say I don't know how this got sexual.
Speaker 6:I wasn't coming from a sexual place.
Speaker 7:The general population of the world would agree that those three words woven together has a sexual connotation. But I will not continue to sit here and debate with you, so from this moment forward we can change the subject Right, or tonight's date will be over.
Speaker 6:It's got a little intense, but you gave a piece of it, the whole totality of the conversations. We was rather than off questions and I can ask the question, oh yeah, you can go to the next slide, next slide.
Speaker 2:Oh, I've had this happen.
Speaker 6:So if you want to give me the respect of asking me if I'm in sexual or not, you should have done that and that's perfectly fine and I say what I had to say, all right y'all.
Speaker 4:This dude's a fucking idiot. Ok, let me just go off real fast. He just tried to gas like the shit out of her. Wait, wait, wait, wait wait, wait. I said let me get my shit off, because she said those and we're not done here. They are, as is a sexual connotation, choked and spanked. He said no, it's not.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I'm not.
Speaker 4:You are salt in this bitch's intelligence, you fucking idiot, absolutely. And so I'm telling you, besides gaslighting her, he also insulted her intelligence. That's why I think men do like.
Speaker 8:Men do shit like that for like a flag, for like. I think men do like do shit like that for like to test you, like to see to see what type of bitch you are you know what I'm saying? Like I don't mean bitch like that, but I just mean, like what kind of lady, kind of lady are you?
Speaker 2:Oh, I got to ask this question when I told y'all that I actually did that and when he explained we were, they were doing rapid fire questions. Yeah, that's exactly how that came up. When you fucking are doing All right, see, this is that's why context matters, unless you write on a rapid fire, hold up no, sam, before you speak, if you've never done a rapid fire question ask, answer, kind of thing that you have no idea Some of the shit that might come out, your fucking. I understand.
Speaker 3:Yeah, she's bad when she when she specifically said that this was sexual.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, that's correct. Oh, you're going to say that this wasn't sexual.
Speaker 3:America knows those words are sexual.
Speaker 4:The rapid fire questions wasn't the problem. It was like she said oh, that question makes me uncomfortable, that's sexual. He said no, it's not. He should have just moved on.
Speaker 8:He should have Her and in so many times, like, like, like, being a dog and respect the conversation.
Speaker 4:Gaslight her. Yeah, I understand. I mean I would think it's sexual, you could be what you want.
Speaker 8:She did the right thing though. She got up and she left. She was like I said what I said Facts Class. That's not a little.
Speaker 4:Let me get a clap or like a boom boom for that she said what she said.
Speaker 8:I was right now, if you get up and walk away from me during the conversation.
Speaker 2:I promise you don't ever ask me for a nine again.
Speaker 8:She looking for nine.
Speaker 2:No, she. Oh, I'm sorry. No, no, no no no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, because I'll tell you right now hold on. Oh my God, oh, oh word. Ok, check this out. So actually hold on. That's one of my triggers, because what have I always said on this podcast and I've been very open to not yeah, that, and I'll say your point of it, go ahead. And when I always tell you the reason why I don't trust women is because every woman that has ever claimed to love me, like me, always leaves.
Speaker 8:So you ain't going to play the violin for that? No, no, no, no, I know you call it by, but you buy it.
Speaker 3:You know, you know violent, by saying by it near and tears I'm talking about Really.
Speaker 5:You know, I'm sorry, but really really Spain and ladies and gentlemen of minority.
Speaker 2:Yes give me a solo screen real quick, ladies and gentlemen of the minority, plus one podcast here. On this podcast, we do speak about mental health a lot, and I will. So my mental health, I mean forever in a day OK now, because my day in man City earlier than that. Remember that. So all I got to tell you is this is that on the minority, plus one podcast, anytime that Stephen will ever get a chance to shit on my two co-hosts and make it rain. Facts and make it rain.
Speaker 4:That's what you say. I'm sorry.
Speaker 2:All I'm telling you is that I completely forgot you. Come on, just a thank you.
Speaker 5:You come on. I said I love screen and I said I said absolutely fucking nothing, sam, do you understand?
Speaker 2:I just gave comedy gold right there. Let me tell you what about. What was I saying?
Speaker 4:So we all agree that this dude deserves to be on the Shane game. Yes, I agree, I know, but hold that thought. Ok, we got to take a break.
Speaker 2:All right, I really wish you all could hear the conversation that we just had.
Speaker 4:Just on the break, britney's display and how Steve give it up. Oh, I see you give it up in bed. It was pretty weak, so I see, oh, so.
Speaker 3:You know that's so hot. That's why it's what you claim in that. The last clip that we showed you guys, we also her eyes, when she got up and walked away from my guy he was trying to say that she'll never find anybody and we're like she's beautiful, clearly she's smart and she's sharp.
Speaker 4:She got a fat. He said fat ass, don't be shit. And I fucking had that. Thank you I was like one and we all know it's like ten years ago.
Speaker 8:But we did agree, we did agree, we did agree, we always tell the people how we agree what we agreed on. We did agree that that was out of pocket.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, that's a little bit over, Dude. It's definitely in the shame game, yeah you're in shame game, bro. So sure, welcome Gaslight and piece of shit and I hope he, he needs to get.
Speaker 8:say say why, though, say why we agree. We say why we agreed. We agree now because of, like, because some of the guys believe that those type of, those type of questions can be asked, but why do we agree, that we didn't?
Speaker 3:seriously.
Speaker 8:It's not.
Speaker 3:Hey, bring me Not the Great.
Speaker 2:But it's a nice ass. I've seen a bit of a billion of them. What the fuck.
Speaker 4:So we all agree on the break. The guys kind of agreed Like you know, if she was attracted to him she would be all for it.
Speaker 3:I disagree, I agree, I agree, I did agree.
Speaker 4:I had a story like a couple years ago. Brittany was there and we met these like strippers, right, and they were gorgeous, right, but girl strippers, no guys. Oh wow, two male strippers. We went to this show. It's supposed to be like a, like a painting strip, ok, but like we get there and they're like yo y'all finger peering we got a little bit of it it was a pain.
Speaker 3:Oh, it was I mean, we thought we were going to paint a naked guy, so I thought it was going to be like a normal, like white people. I almost didn't want to go because I don't want to go sit and eat this weight penis, like you know it's going to be like professional art studio painting a naked guy type of shit yeah painting some white guy.
Speaker 8:But no, this was actually some art deco type.
Speaker 4:I think, I think I turned like 30, 31, because this is when we was in Miami and this was some hood shit like it was in Little Haiti. But anyway, I digress. So actually, Brittany being like the savvy chick she is, she gets one of the strippers number so we could kick it with them. Ok, and they were gorgeous, especially the one I was like kind of vibing with, but not like crazy, and I just couldn't. Brittany was like bitch, how the fuck? Because I was thinking, oh, you take him down.
Speaker 4:I was like yo like, nah, this is like the vibe was. He was gorgeous, yeah, the vibe that it wasn't there. So my point is saying like, yes, you could be physically attracted, but if the vibe ain't there, something like it will turn off. Bless you. It will turn me. It turned me off. He was turning me off.
Speaker 2:It's like fucking it's like fucking a mannequin. That's a little different.
Speaker 4:Who gives a fuck like what's on the you said but you said that she was attracted, that she was attracted at the conversation.
Speaker 3:The conversation. No, no, no, no, no. Let me backtrack Attraction and the conversation. The vibe is flowing, it's a good vibe, it's a good day and you're enjoying the conversation and somebody you're physically attracted to, but you weren't vibing. Now imagine if he had engaged you and connected with you and you guys had engaged on that conversation.
Speaker 6:It would have been a whole different conversation.
Speaker 3:You know what I mean. Now, if I'm attracted to a male and I meet him and you know we're kicking and reviving and he asked me a sexual question and I'm flirting back and I'll be like, yeah, maybe I like both.
Speaker 4:Yeah, because I don't know what to check if I can't? You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:Don't forget to play Opposed to a guy. That I'm not feeling like. That I'm right. No, but we're talking about this right now. I'm having some first day.
Speaker 4:You know what I mean. I would have played that shit, but we're talking about attraction. I agree everything you said, brittany but. If he was physically attractive like that stripper and he was throwing those into windows.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but physical isn't just key, if you like. I said that mental, but that's what you meant to say. You're not getting what I'm saying. I'm saying I agree with you.
Speaker 4:Yes what. I'm saying the conversation was off camera is that the guy said if she was physically attracted, let's take out conversation Right, Physically attracted and it's whack conversation. They're saying, even if it's whack conversation, he's saying sexual. In those they're like oh my God, yes, I love it. I love both my hair, all that shit. That's what I'm telling you.
Speaker 2:No, that's not true. I'll break it up. I like being choked.
Speaker 3:Just a little bit. But I'm saying she wasn't feeling him now.
Speaker 6:And if she sat down and she was?
Speaker 3:attracted to him, he wasn't vibing with her mentally and he fucked it up.
Speaker 8:So that's a different thing. Enough. And he didn't you know, we all agree that once she said no, I'm not with all that, I think she even gave him a chance, being like if you want to stop talking about this, we can continue.
Speaker 3:She did say I mean, but who knows who would have changed her tone. She was giving him a little bit of a second, but then he came back even more aggressive, so it was a dub. Look, I understand that.
Speaker 2:I get that, you know like.
Speaker 4:I said you know men, men, just getting up and walking away is a trigger for me, even the body language, everything.
Speaker 8:Yeah, you guys being asked if you like to be choked or stank is a trigger for me, so I don't know.
Speaker 3:Yeah, so you guys got kind of an appropriate Ask that fucking question. If you're a fucking stranger, please don't ask questions.
Speaker 8:If I don't know you, please don't ask a question If you've not taken me in at least a couple of days, like two.
Speaker 4:please don't ask me those types of questions, if you but you guys got to go to our YouTube page Minority.
Speaker 6:Plus one to see that clip. So you say that some.
Speaker 4:At least you said you had some questions.
Speaker 8:Oh yeah, oh yeah, all right, absolutely. So these questions are from tonight's conversation cards and show us the tonight's conversation panel and podcast and they have a few decks of cards that they they have relationship discussions or like dating questions and just like small talk, single small talk questions that they have on the card. So I pulled a few and I wanted to get you out, yeah, perspective on the questions. So here's, here's one, all right? So, true or false, men are intimidated by strong, successful women. False Defend your answer yes, yes.
Speaker 2:Clearly false.
Speaker 4:I think a lot. I've talked about it before. A lot of men put value in how much money they make. Society has also told them that Right, their value only comes with how much money they have.
Speaker 2:Or how they're treated, respected.
Speaker 4:Respected. So when they meet a woman who is making more than that, it's intimidating. They don't, they may not feel like a man. Right.
Speaker 8:You know, got you, yeah, yep, got you. There's some men who find power in being the caregiver.
Speaker 8:Yeah, right and raising the children and being the one that the kids see at the recitals all the time and go to the games and show up for them all the time. So it just depends on the man, I think. I think I really believe that a divine masculine energy can appreciate a strong woman and if that's the void that needs to be filled, or if that's the space that needs to be filled, he's OK with being flexible in being able to fill those gaps. Right, I like that.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that's rare that is However, yeah, that would be that, that's the ideal right Because, women, you know, we are making more and we're the breadwinners now and we're holding down the households by ourselves, without the men you know. It would be nice to find a man that could step back and not feel like he's being a bitch or whatever, and take care of all that, yeah, he's not emasculated.
Speaker 8:He's not emasculated. I'm so especially at conversation. Come on, steve, because we know you got something to say about this.
Speaker 2:You know what the answer is. I think I might have figured out why, like everything is just gone to shit and it's simply because of titles masculine, you know, masculine the labels. Yeah, I just said that. You said titles, labels, same shit. All right, like I was just trying to, I don't want to.
Speaker 8:Yeah, I'm going to say that he's just got a feeling that outnumbered no.
Speaker 2:I don't want that. This is why I live in this area. This is, this is light work. It's, it's, it's the labels that we just put upon things. Masculine, you know, is defined by aggression, so an aggressive woman is a masculine woman.
Speaker 4:Aggressive man is a masculine man. First off, man is a feminine man. So we do all this and then we talk about providers.
Speaker 2:Ok, fair enough. You know there's many ways to provide Absolutely, because, with all due respect, there's a lot of people who financially provide, but in every other provision that needs to be given, they cannot. They cannot do it. So does that really make you a provider? And the answer is no, it makes you Provisional. You can provide something, but you know, and what we just keep fucking doing to us, to just us in general, as just people, you know, I'm not talking again, this is not race, I'm talking about male to female. Can we fucking just get over this? You know Masculine, that like. Can we just start fucking finding people that work with us?
Speaker 3:What?
Speaker 2:no, no, no, no, sam, hold on without this, without this outside interference of like well, this is what you like. Women need to stop listening to so many of their friends. I think women just need to start really fucking thinking for that. And men too, you know, because you know any like men give the fucking greatest advice to their guy friends. Sometimes. I actually agree with you, steve. So so we need to start just fucking becoming really figuring out who the fuck you are as a person as you and just fucking find somebody who fits you.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm, it doesn't fucking matter if somebody is all like oh yo, you don't mind, she does this and this. No man, yo, we just fucking get.
Speaker 4:Great, everybody else about this shit. Fuck this. Yeah, fuck this. Toxic and Unhealthy, it makes no sense, that's.
Speaker 2:Why do you hold on, sam? You're bringing in. So I'm not talking about that, I'm talking about shit. I'm talking about a fucking real relationship, a real Something getting knocked up or slay on the side.
Speaker 3:There's so many different relationship types for different folks these days.
Speaker 6:There is nothing that is normal.
Speaker 3:There's nothing that is there's nothing that is the norm, there's nothing that is working. You know everybody's. And whoever wants to do whatever they want to do, to let them fucking live Like who are we to say anything?
Speaker 2:just dates.
Speaker 4:Do what the fuck you want to do. I don't think anybody's arguing that. I think you know. No, man, it's not that here.
Speaker 2:You gotta understand this man. When you fucking do shit, it doesn't matter, you're always gonna have a fucking label on you. Right, one of us on this couch are labeled. Yeah, everybody who's listening to this right now.
Speaker 3:Everyone's gonna have their judgment. I'm gonna say something Everybody's a fucking label.
Speaker 2:So I have no problem being labeled. But you need to understand that deep down, deep, deep down, deep down, no one gives a fuck about you. Do you do, as long as it ain't fucking hurtin nobody exactly as long as you ain't out getting yourself Different situations. They should Outwardly, just a dick. No one gives a fuck about you, do you? Life, attention to you. Like everybody has to stop fucking acting. Like the all eyes are on them and it's not Just fucking go, just do it.
Speaker 3:I.
Speaker 2:Sometimes I control when the gold comes out. I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4:But it'll be way too long, so I'll save it for next week, since you know yeah. Yeah, last week was tough because it was like it was funny it was, it was almost like a nasty notice. The whole episode. That's why I was like, oh, forget me doing nasty nose, because this bitch is definitely gonna be put on.
Speaker 2:The whole fucking episode was nasty. Nasty fucking white tongue girl.
Speaker 4:And I wish Britney was here, because she baked shit for you know her loved ones, and it made me think.
Speaker 3:I put on a shaking but this.
Speaker 4:This white girl said she baked like something with her, so when they ate it she got thrush absolutely.
Speaker 2:Babies get the rush like that is, with black and white people? Why do y'all keep inserting y'all fluids in the food?
Speaker 4:I think that's all people, not just Everybody.
Speaker 8:No, no, no people like that. So yeah, let me know.
Speaker 4:You know they talk about food workers spitting your food.
Speaker 8:You.
Speaker 2:My manager, my assistant manager? No, first off, she deserved it, she's. She pinched my ass as a minor. Okay, back up, so what?
Speaker 4:did you do exactly I'm ready in her drink. Oh my god.
Speaker 5:No, it gets better.
Speaker 2:I saw you, oh yeah. Yeah, and I told her. She touched me again, damn Manager at the time.
Speaker 8:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Look, I didn't look. All I know is that I could break her face if she did it again.
Speaker 8:No, no see, that's that's what you, that's what you go wrong. You supposed to sue?
Speaker 4:My support system was always me.
Speaker 8:Yeah.
Speaker 2:No, I got my revenge and this is better than suing peter in her food. I didn't pee in her food. So what happened was we? I spit in her drink With a Hawking Louie, and then a sprite or something Whatever she drank at the time, and then my assistant manager, who was a heavy smoker, lit each side of the chicken.
Speaker 4:Brought it on his drunk. This is my fear when I get my food bag.
Speaker 8:No, no, no, no, no. I don't need to say Sam.
Speaker 2:Okay, sam, this is only if you deserve it. People ain't just, ain't doing it just to be. If you are a nice customer, they love you. Okay, trust me. Just be fucking respectful to your servers and the people who ended your food in your beef.
Speaker 8:Okay.
Speaker 2:So, but so so. So we did that, and then I think there was something else we did, but I can't remember. But yeah, oh, she ain't at all. I watched her.
Speaker 4:Oh, oh oh, oh no, it was beautiful. I remember, caught on video. Do you remember the show caught on video? That's all they would ever show is restaurant workers fucking with people's food.
Speaker 2:Yeah cuz they're rude.
Speaker 4:Yeah, you ever see that movie waiting.
Speaker 2:First off, that's one of my fucking top 20 favorite movies of all time Are you serious part where they spit in her food?
Speaker 4:No, what do you think we did Sam? All types of shit.
Speaker 2:Welcome to Taco Bell on Wolf Road. When we did it it was 20 years ago, guys relax. Oh my god, long John Silver. Yeah, we, yeah, we long John Silver. We brought that shit right on our seafood.
Speaker 4:But I just want to say thank you for coming.
Speaker 8:Absolutely. I hope you guys have me back and you're such a natural too.
Speaker 4:By the way, am I really good at your ball buster. Thank you.
Speaker 8:Yeah, yeah, that's my night job is ball busting, so I.
Speaker 2:Good ball busting please.
Speaker 8:Yeah, right, give up my social stuff. You want to Chatting with Ian? You'd like a date or something? Because you know I'm single, you know. You see. You see the handle at the bottom at UK goddess on IG. Ellie Cleary on Facebook. So, yeah, that's about it. I'm a part-time model, I'm a retired model, but sometimes I come out for the good show. So the good designers and this designer, she's epic icon, she's Well known and in upstate New York as well as New York period and then just in the fashion industry period. So shout out to Sylvia Robinson For doing this show.
Speaker 8:April 13th the fashion express tour, the fashion takeover. It's gonna be a fashion production, not just a show. So there'll be some performance in fashion, yeah, not just runway walking or catwalking. So it's gonna be really interesting, really entertaining. The tickets are $40. If anybody wants a ticket, shout out sweet to Ellie Cleary on Facebook, in box me, and have tickets. It's gonna be at the Washington Park. You know what's the house that they have Playhouse. Yeah, well, they do like the place. Yeah, exactly so. It's gonna be outside. It's gonna be real nice April. Yeah, exactly exactly so it should be a good production. So, yeah, shout outs to the fashion show coming up again. If you're looking for tickets, just hit us up for them. Also, shout outs to black investor I'm also a part of an organization or she's a community group.
Speaker 8:It's a new black women's community group that my sister destiny hey, sue's shout out to you, baby, she started and it's about basically teaching black women about generational wealth and Teaching us about how to build that wealth and giving us resources and just a platform and a place to go to be educated about that. So, yeah, shout outs to her, so go check that out. Black investor on IG. And then just just little things that I do.
Speaker 8:I'm a realtor. So if you're looking to buy and sell, oh, whatever your name, I'm a realtor. I'm also a recruiter by day. Actually just started a little side business side hustle called EWC career consulting. So if you need your resume revamped or you just need some help with, like, interview coaching, I love just teaching people the basics of like how to do and conduct an interview and be confident in your interviewing skills, inability, and so if you're, you know, coming back into the workforce or you're just trying to transition and your profession, how let me, I will absolutely help you revamp your resume and give you some interviewing tips. That's that's me, that's that's that's it Absolutely.
Speaker 2:That's me. That's change we eat. That would be your slogan.
Speaker 4:I give.
Speaker 8:I give something to every guest.
Speaker 2:I really I really am good at that shit. Yeah, I cover what shit, just like on the fucking fly. That always seems to work.
Speaker 8:I'm like that.
Speaker 4:I'm really, I'm like chatting with the yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, but if you like this episode, make sure you like this episode, make sure you subscribe, make sure you comment down below, make sure you watch our YouTube minority plus one to see shame gang. Nasty notice.
Speaker 2:Minority support or me just looking like an ass.
Speaker 4:That's you. If you guys you know, if you guys want to watch the video, miss me up. Oh, I was on a roll.
Speaker 2:You're doing good. I'm sorry it's so much, don't it yeah?
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Speaker 2:So I just want to thank you again for coming on. I'm glad you had a good time.
Speaker 8:I did. Thank you so much for having me. I appreciate minority plus one. I just want to say really quick, I'm a cut you a, steve. I just want to give you our props. I think it's a big deal Wash up, caught a couple of your shows, the episode, and it's really important to provide a platform for people to be able to come and have Conversations and sometimes conversations can be difficult and sometimes they can be fun, but you guys provide a great a safe space to have those conversations and I'm cool to see y'all for having this platform out here in upstate.
Speaker 2:This is like one of those times where I wish I was a little darker, because I don't like it always Said choked or spanked I said both. I had a paddle with my name engraved in this couch.
Speaker 8:Oh, he said he got a paddle.
Speaker 5:To give the eve.
Speaker 2:I'm not talking to full on with me, I'm not talking to full on, like you know, you little piece of shit. I'm like nah, you look loose.
Speaker 8:He likes.
Speaker 3:When your dick is getting sucked, you're getting slapped, or oh my god. Oh my god, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2:But you know, sometimes Slapping the feed, you know.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I'm gonna hit up Steve in box sliding his dm Like yo, people like oh.
Speaker 2:Stephen Fuck that like like that's what I keep trying to say, like I keep hearing women talk like they tough shit, I ain't met you yet. Oh, no, no, you got it, steve, you're, you're the best well, that is true, and first off, don't worry your eyes, nick. Like again Sam chill, I was it.
Speaker 4:I like.
Speaker 2:Right been up. I'm your host even.
Speaker 8:Crystal spurney, and, and it's Elisha and it's always please stereotype responsibly and we'll be back next week with another motherfucking episode.
Speaker 2:Peace y'all. Thank you for tuning into this week's episode of the minority plus one podcast and drop with us. Make sure you hit that like, hit that, subscribe and, as always, make sure you stereotype responsibly.